Take the Girl Time

I think that in most if not every stepmom's mind we believe we should spend every possible moment with our stepkids while they are under our roof.

I can't.

I love my husband and stepson dearly, I really do. They fill in places in my life that I didn't know were missing until I met them. But hanging around with those two all the time? I feel like I'm attached to a boy's club sometimes and I don't have the right equipment to be a part of it.

That's good though, because it is the father-son relationship that I'm experiencing and I don't necessarily need to be a part of that all the time. I know that right now the little perfectionist stepmom in me is crying out, "But, but," and maybe your inner stepmom is too. But honestly, he had those kids before you ladies, he can handle them.

The balance has taken me a few years, but I've learned that I don't need to get involved with everything as deeply as I did before. I don't need to hold everyone's hand, and honestly, it isn't my custody battle. It isn't!

I will remain supportive of both my husband and stepson throughout custody issues and whatever else comes their way. Supportive doesn't mean I have to be involved in every decision, it means that I can sit back and enjoy. If the boy is under our roof, awesome, I will take care of him as if he is my own. If he's not under our roof, I guess it means the husband and I can have more quality time together.

No matter what ladies, never lose those girl friends, there will be a time when you just need some girl time to take a break from being wife and mother.