We love the fact that the men we've married (or at least are involved with) are great daddies. We praise them, adore them for it, and admit it, it probably even makes your uterus tingle too.
But sometimes, there just needs to be some special couple time at a special event, place, or date. I'm not dogging the parenting instinct to show kids everything the parent knows or does--we all would like our children to become well rounded people and remember fun experiences with the folks.
But there is the relationship of the couple to be considered. And the couple in that relationship should be considerate of each other with their time and affection. It is far too easy to put the children first and forget the other half of the parenting team. It's okay to take a night off from the kids to go on a date, or to keep that one memorable place you spent with your significant other, a place just for you and your significant other. (Even if it might have a great pool that the kids would enjoy).
I was once pleasantly informed by my stepson that he would be traveling with his father and I on our honeymoon to the Bahamas. Really? Even though we haven't taken it yet, (maybe after our 3rd wedding anniversary) it will still be our honeymoon, party of two.
The point is, Stepmoms, (or Stepdads), you may love those kids with all your heart, but don't forget how you became a stepparent to them; and gently remind your significant others about your half of the parenting team needing some time alone. It's not selfish, and more often than not it does the couple good to spend some time just focusing on each other.
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