I found it a bit unusual that counseling sessions were so normal in my husband's family when I first met him. That may be because I came from a family where you weren't supposed to express your feelings because that made you weak.
I really do appreciate counseling appointments now.
The family is able to air out emotions or about events that have been troubling them and can find a solution with the unbiased third party in the room. The counselor often knows the right questions to ask and has seen these situations before, and can provide solutions from experience of knowing what has worked for other blended families.
This has been huge for us in negotiating chores and respect. (I also recently learned from a family that hasn't been blended that counseling really helped their relationships between father and mother and two teenage sons). So ladies, even those "normal" families ask for counseling help too.
The other area counseling has been a large part of is negotiating with the birth mother where the boy wants to reside during the school year. This has been a point of contention since she followed the latest flame to his home state 2,500 miles away. Now that our son has had experience with his counselor and trusts her, she can vouch for his desires that he may not want to speak to either us nor his mother and her partner about for fear of hurting our feelings. The counselor being in place also means that the boy may not have to speak with the judge himself since he finds the idea of being in court frightening.
All along the way, however, counseling has provided a safe place for him to voice his thoughts, concerns, and emotions about issues that would be difficult for him to bring up otherwise.
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